Friday, 23 November 2012

Healing 4 Kerry.

This is the hardest post i have tried to write. A year ago a very dear friend of mine encouraged me to set up the blog i had been wanting to start for a while about my youngest child. I went onto set up my blog, but being a teacher i quickly found it unmanageable to dedicate time to my career and my blog so have not posted for a long time now.
This friend has a very successful blog of her own and i had watched her find so much enjoyment from hers and followed her many achievements through it. I had no idea though just how successful she had been, and how many lives she has touched.
This friend is of course Multiple Mummy, aka as Kerry, aka as one of my closest friends. We have now been friends for 22 years. We went through school together. We grew and developed together and more importantly, had so many happy times together.
I am writing this post to join the blogging community in praying for her recovery, and yet i don't want to dwell too much on the situation we are all struggling to come to terms with as it is just too painful. Instead i thought i would share with you some of the many reasons she is so special and treasured by so many people.
When i visited her in hospital on Wednesday night, one of the cards on her wall from another friend said.... 'Kerry I have so many childhood memories of you, one of which being when you lost your braces and we all searched the house for them, only to find you had left them on the doorstep!' This sums her up perfectly.... she was so scatty at times when we were growing up! This part of her personality always had us smiling...
When she had just returned from maternity leave with BB, I remember her telling me she arrived at work, went to lock the car... only to discover she had forgotten to drive to nursery first to drop him off and there he was smiling at her in his car seat!
You have all read Multiple Daddy's fantastic posts.... She rang me at 11pm the night before our A Level results. In a very excited voice she told me she had met this fantastic, handsome man that she wanted to be with. They are absolute soul mates and the support he has shown her throughout their time together has always inspired me and those closest to her.

I am responsible for the conception of the twins... well sort of!! My eldest daughter was 5 weeks early. I was having dinner with Kerry round another very close friend of hers when my waters went. I made my excuses and left. The next day Kerry came to visit me and made sure that my husband and i had our first family photo taken holding our daughter.... that is Kerry completely. She knows each of her friends so well and she knew i would find that very important, but I hadn't yet thought that far ahead. She went home from seeing us, feeling all broody... and well 9 months later the twins arrived.

Kerry is just such a fantastic person. She enjoyed spending time with all of her friends and i so appreciated that our children were similar ages as it meant i got to see her regularly and we could catch up while the children played.

I am a very self conscious, somewhat negative person and she always balanced me out, making me see when i was being ridiculous while at the same time soothing my worries, listening as only a close friend can. She always, always had advice to give to anyone and i always went away feeling better having spoken to her.

As her blog shows, she is the most fantastic Mummy. Her children had such a wealth of experiences because of it. She was unfazed by most things and i used to watch in awe at how she juggled 3 children, in fact all of us friends did. She made it look effortless! 

I could carry on for pages and pages recalling all my memories of her but i won't.

Kerry you light up any room you are in, and my healing prayer for tomorrow is that in the future you can once again return to your family and carry on making memories. I for one, need you in my life.... so many people do. You are fighting as hard as you can sweetheart and we are all here for you, every step of the way.

With all my love Leanne.


  1. Thats so lovely I am asure this has been such a sad time for you too. Whata lovely firnedship you to have, take care love.

  2. I am staying up late to visit every single one of the posts. I had done 1-15 earlier but then bathed and put Aaron to bed VERY late. I came back to my computer and did 27-21 and happened to notice there was now a 28. Instead of carrying on to visit posts 16-20 I couldn't resist having a peek at 28 to see who was posting at after midnight.

    I never in a million years expected a post like this. You have given us an extraordinary insight into her life, even beyond the scope of her blog.

    This really shows on every level how many people need her back in their lives.

    The power of that love is incredible, and is what will get her home.

    You have so written from the heart here.

    Much love,
    Liska xxx

  3. what a lovely post and it must be hard to see your close friend and her family go through this. so many memories of a great friendship (hugs) and i loved heating some new things about her x

  4. lovely post about a lovely lady, sounds like you have some great memories with Kerry & I hope you can have moments like that again soon x

  5. How lucky you are - what an incredible friend to have. She deserves to be back with you all. I barely know her, but I can still see how special she is...

  6. Thank you for sharing your beautiful memories, I have met Kerry a handful of times and it was special, tonight you can count on me 100% for a massive boost of love in her direction and a prayer that her situation changes as soon as possible.
    I'd like to think of her healing bit by bit as I write, mending and getting stronger. x
    May she soon be back amongst you all x